Hollie Crumbs (Fet name Cookie Crumbs) is a Newcastle kink community event organiser and kink-related business owner. You can find info on some of her ventures on the following:
She has kindly written this blog for us We are very excited to be hosting a number of play party in conjunction with Newcastle Labyrinth I am so very excited
An introduction to the Newcastle kink community
When I first started out in the BDSM community, I was terrified of being recognized
‘What if I run into a work colleague? My neighbors? The local school mum!?’
For me, these thoughts meant that I instead decide to start my kink journey in the anonymity and perceived safety of the Sydney community. It took me over a year to feel safe enough to even think about meeting up with someone locally, and even longer again before I attended my first Newcastle based event.
Since then, it’s been quite the journey, and it’s at the point I now run several events for the Newcastle kink scene, including markets, munches, skill shares and from 2022, public play party events.
What (and who) exactly is the Newcastle Kink community?
The Newcastle kink community is pretty much a bunch of people who get off on having a good time, and don’t mind chatting with others about it. We’re an eclectic bunch, and at any event you will find people from across all walks of life and careers- nurses, uni students, builders, chefs, psychologists, and yes, even the local PTA parent can make an appearance. The defining feature which brings us together is that we like exploring experiences that are beyond the regular- most of these relate to our sex lives, but it doesn’t necessarily always involve our genitals.
WTF is a munch?
The most common events that bring the kink community together are called munches. These are casual meet ups hosted in public where people can meet other kinksters, swap stories, and generally have a good time in a community setting. Newcastle has several munches which cater for different groups within the community:
Young and Kinky: a munch for those aged 18 to 35(ish). This munch is set up as a safe place for newcomers to ask questions, get answers to questions they didn’t even know to ask, and meet some of the regular and helpful faces.
Rope Munch: a meet up for those who love to tie up people or be tied up themselves. This event has been running as online skill share through lockdown, catering from the very beginners, through to those who are artists with a knot.
Newy Dommes: Catering for Femmes and Themmes who like to top their partners, as well as those who enjoy being under the boot or heel of a strong woman.
Rainbow munch: For our LGBTQIA+ members and their allies, this is a space for those in the community who want a chance to talk queerness and kink.
Pets and Littles (PALS): Like dressing up and letting your alter ego (or true self) out? Pets and Littles serves those who are into pet/owner and Caregiver/Little (CGL) dynamics.
Poly munch: A meet up for those who are not monogamous. This is the newest munch on the scene with its first event to be held in the next month or two.
The Bottoms Up munch:
The crowning glory in the kink community calendar is the Bottoms Up munch, which the giant get-together (and piss-up) for the entire community. Everyone from everywhere is welcome, and we generally have a great time catching up with fellow kinksters, telling tales of kinky conquest and being our loud, exuberant selves.
In addition to munches, there are many other events in the community calendar including market stalls, performance events, skill share workshops, and both private and public play parties -more on these events to come in future posts.
What if I run into my workmate?
Funny enough, that first thought which I though would be such a nerve wracking and scary experience did end up happening to me, and I bumped into a workmate at an event I was running. Turns out it wasn’t the end of the world, and instead our work lunch convos suddenly had a new (and much more interesting) content to discuss.
The thing is if you turn up to a kink event and you know someone, then you now have something in common to chat about. The community takes personal privacy very seriously, and one of the golden rules is not revealing people kinky status to others outside the community.
Where do I find out more information?
Just like the rest of your life, including shopping, current events, news updates, and (not always) quality memes, you can find information about the Newcastle kink community on Facebook, under its page ‘Kinkformation’.
Alternatively, we also have a space on Fetlife (a global social network site for the BDSM, Fetish and Kink community) known as The F3.
Either place is good for finding out about what is coming up in the social calendar. Facebook also comes with a buttload of memes and top tier shit-posting, while The F3 comes with some info on local crafters and makers of kink gear.
So, check us out on the socials, and get yourself along to a local event. Promise we won’t bite (unless you ask us nicely).
